5 Books Every Woman Needs To Read In 2018

Between blogging, parenting, networking, and everything else my reading time is just for me. Reading allows me to readjust my thinking and reflect on all of my actions up unto this point. Before summer 2018 ends, I’m sharing my reading list with you. Why? Reading is caring and I care about your mental health.

  1. Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis: I’m not a huge fan of over the top personalities telling me how to live my life. Well, that all changed when I read Girl, Wash Your Face. If you are looking for a good book that will help you appreciate where you are in your journey and motivated towards the future. This is the book for you. Each chapter is much better than the last and you will pass this one along to your favorite girlfriends.
  2. Broke Millenial by Erin Lowry: Ask a critic and they will tell you that millennials are all gadgets and social media. When it comes to understanding how and where to spend their money, Millenials could care less. Thankfully Erin Lowry speaks millennials. Broke Millenials does a great job of presenting practical how-to money advice in a conversational way. The tone of the book is relatable and authentic. Get your money right with this helpful resource.
  3. Well, That Escalated Quickly Memoirs and Mistakes Of An Accidental Activist: I learned of Franchesca Ramsey via GIPHY.  Her comical expression, sharp wit, and a funny and timely perspective on relevant issues grabbed my attention. Franchesca says what you’re thinking and more. This is one book that will cross generations and genders.
  4. The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas: Are you reading Angie’s tweets? Liking her Instagram post? Well, go run to your favorite social media platform and add Angie Thomas to your favorites list. Angie is just a real, humble, and authentic as they come. The Hate U Give breathes life into a fresh voice on the pages of how the struggles of everyday life chew us up and spit us out. But, in the end, we have more power than we realize. This one is for you, your girlfriends, and her pubescent daughters.
  5. Get Over It by Iyanla Vanzant: Need a spiritual check-up? Iyanla is the go-to source for self-reflection and owns your ish. Iyanla shares how we have disconnected from our personal power and intuitive light. With a step by step guide to tapping into your higher vibrational self. This book is for every modern day woman discovering her voice and moving towards greatness.

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How Love Is….Gives Millenials A Fresh Perspective On Finding True Love In 2018

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Every now and then a show comes along that makes you reconsider your perspective on finding love in a hookup culture. OWN Network new show Love Is gives us a glimpse into falling in love in the 90’s. Do you remember the 90’s? Come on now! Living Single, The Fresh Prince, Family Matters, Martin, and A Different World. The 90’s were all about fighting for black love and family. Do you remember when DeWayne confessed his love for Whitney at her wedding? Yep. How about when Will dressed up in a fat suit and told Lisa he loved her in the grocery store? Awww man! That’s the kind of love we need and will cherish forever.

Back in the 90’s black love was everywhere. You always witnessed the man chasing after his woman because he loved and wanted their love. Black women held downs careers and dated without objectifying themselves. We were empowered and inspired to have a Nina and Darius kind of love when we grew up. Why not? If it was on tv, it could happen in real life.

Every Tuesday, we get to revisit the 90’s era on OWN. With fresh faces, Michele Weaver as Nuri and Will Catlett, Yasir, we are in for an overdose of a romantic drama. Created and based off of the love story of super producers Mara Brock Akil and her hubby Salim Akil.

If you know Mara, she’s going to give you some hip, cool, and edgy flavor with her female characters. Mara’s character may be a bit complicated in the love department. However, they are bold powerhouses whether in the boardroom or behind the scenes of a tv show. Don’t you remember Being Mary Jane, The Game, and Girlfriends? Yes, exactly! Mara is the truth and she holds nothing back in this new show.

I’ll have to admit I was nervous about Love Is when it first came onto the scene. Why? I’m a hopeless romantic and a modern-day woman looking for that perfect hook into a show that I can sync my toes and feet into weekly. Over the past few years, I’ve been missing a strong female character that I could relate to beyond skin tone. I could get suspense, intrigue, drama, and stupidity on other networks. But, I always felt less fulfilled. There was nothing on television like Girlfriends or Living Single. The sisterhood narrative was dead. Black men were not interested in saving the family. So, I as a viewer was left with other options to fill the void in my heart. How about you?

Now, I’ve seen a few shows tackle black love from a variety of perspectives and decades. More often than not, it’s the same narrative of the single black woman scrumping through breadcrumbs in the dating world. Granted she may be successful, stylish, financially stable, and popular amongst friends. The man in her life is often questionable. He’s either someone’s man, a tool, outside our race, not interested in marriage, the disgruntled ex, or just the annoying sometimes sexually fluid male friend. Ugh! Yeah, those shows are entertaining. But, they give power to the mentality that finding real genuine love is impossible in our society. Black women don’t get married. The black family is irreversibly broken. So, you might as well hookup, settle, or become the glorified side chick.

Luckily, Mara and Salim found it worthy enough for us to learn from their love story. After all twenty years of marriage is a major accomplishment. When we meet Nuri, she’s hard at work on a script and trying to find her footing in LA. Within a year she’s purchased a home, has a gig on a hit tv show, and she has a few options for male suitors. Not bad for a girl with a California dream. Yasir is a single dad who has relocated to California with his girlfriend Ruby. However, their relationship is on a downward spiral to break up-ville. Ruby’s fed up with Yasir’s pipe dreams and needs money for the bills. While Yasir is a devout Muslim who’s going through a hard time trying to support himself and his dream.

Well, if you’re guessing that Yasir and Nuri fall in love at first sight. You’re wrong. Sorry. Wrong show.  Yasir and Nuri briefly meet and go their separate ways. That’s right. Timing is everything. Yasir and Nuri don’t cross paths until a year later. Being a gentleman, Yasir asks Nuri on a date and well…the rest is in the show.

Love is, is not the ordinary show where you meet two characters searching for love and playing hopscotch with multiple partners. Quite the contrary my friends, you’re going to get a lot more depth and sensuality. While rooting for Nuri and Yasir, you will discover that Yasir is a man of great principles and values. While he’s in a situation with Ruby, he’s not dipping his spoon in her coffee. He’s actually a good guy. While Nuri seems a bit career obsessed and likes to have options on her phone. You will come to discover that even as a modern woman of the 90’s she has standards and rules that a lot of women can relate to today.

Love Is, is filled with quirky, sarcastic characters that are not afraid and unapologetic about keeping it real. Here’s the best part about the show: You get a realistic happily ever after. Most shows throw you into the love story and you are left to conclude what happens to the couple twenty years later. Well, Yasir and Nuri are of course married and they are recounting their love story for us.

Do you believe in love? Depends on your generation. If you’re between 18-25, your perspective on love is pretty watered down like your great aunt’s kool-aid.  Unfortunately, our television programs give us dysfunctional relationships that we have come to normalize in our real life. Love seems almost impossible if you’re a thirty-something woman with two or more kids, divorced or never married. Your dating options consist of swiping left or right online, searching through your friend friends list on Facebook,  dating in the workplace, or trying to work through your problems in a bad relationship. Unfortunately, after forty-something women finding love for a single and accomplished woman is harder than finding a needle in a haystack.

What are we left with to believe in love? We idolize celeb relationships, look to our great aunts or uncles for marital advice, cheer on our friends as they head for the altar, and pray that God sends us someone to love. Trust me, it’s tough if you’re a single man or woman.

Here’s the beautiful poetic thing about Love Is and it’s timing. People are still dating and meeting new people online. Why? We don’t want to be in this life alone. Yes, the odds are challenging and filled with more headaches than Tylenol can handle. But, Love Is gives the young woman with a career hope that she can have it all. It may not come in the perfect package. But, when it arrives at your doorstep open it with an open heart. For men,  Yasir is an example that through self-control and discipline your ambitions are not futile. You just need the right partner to be in alignment with your vision. Who you are at your core doesn’t have to be compromised to find love. Love will find you when you are open and ready to receive it. And when you find it, you fight for it. Not with just your words but with your actions. Sometimes love is only a script, coffee shop, or an introduction away from changing your life.

 

Do you believe in love? Have you found love to believe in 2018?

 

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20 Things To Write About This Summer

It’s summer 18! It’s time to experience life on a completely different level. You’re probably sick and tired of barbecues, nightclubs, and swiping on Tinder looking for a date. Trust me, I’ve been there.

Lucky for you, I’m all about living in the moment and exploring new challenges this year. Summer only comes around once a year. Why do the same thing over and over again? I believe that we should all have a journal just to keep a momento of what we have learned over the years. Why not start with summer? Here are twenty things you will be inspired to write about this summer:

1. The worst summer movie

2. Your Tinder date from hell

3. The day you unplugged from social media

4. Shopping with your grandparents or parents

5. That one time you lied and got away with it or sort of

6. The hardest decision you had to make this summer

7. What happened when you DM your MCM

8. 5 Things You Can’t Tell Anyone Not Even Your BFF

9. The worst day of your life

10. Your favorite selfie

11. Your first kiss, when, where, and more details

12. A how to post on something you attempted for the first time

13. A letter to last summer you. What have you learned about yourself?

14. Write about your most embarrassing moment

15. An anti bucklist: Things you will never do

16. The last thing that made you cry happy tears

17. Write a letter to your favorite influencer

18. That time you and a stranger shared a laugh

19. What’s your favorite thing to do offline

20. What is your favorite memory from this summer?

Enjoy the summer! Don’t forget a selfie is worth a thousand words. But, a good journal entry will last a lifetime!

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